How to heal "broken" relationships:
Aug 14, 2024 11:45 am
Connection cannot be built from weak points - right?
As in - You build a mansion, but it's foundation crumbles...
How do relationships break?
They were never built correctly in the beginning...
Now we have a few points to lay down here:
- you can RE-CREATE the foundation after it starts to crumble
- you can see clearly the RE-CREATION won't work out
This can be a tough pill to swallow, but this is the nature of life
Sometimes what's ACTUAL, sometimes the truth STINGS for a moment
But the STIING of honesty and truth, it's healthy long-term
So much healthier than perpetuating a lie, an illusion, due to attachment
WE MUST BE HONEST AND LOOK AT OUR MOTIVES
If you seek a relationship out of wanting comfort, security, and out of the fear which is being alone... This is a very weak foundational point to create any connection from
A true connection is built from people not at all needing each other, but naturally seeing that life is easier when working in tandem
SO. Many broken relationships will have to be ended - as the foundation was built from a confused place
And the continuing of a connection of confusion will only wake your life harder...
I know it might be tough to be honest with ourselves
But it's not at tough as:
- living a roller-coaster life
- being in a hamster wheel of reactionary relation
- living with someone who treats you in a way that doesn't align
Before you can ever love, you have to see clearly what love is...
And you cannot do that if you are constantly at war with yourself...