Hey ,

If you lean anxious in your relationships, boundaries can feel… terrifying.

It might feel like saying “no” will make someone leave. That asserting a need makes you too much, too difficult, or too needy.

But what if boundaries didn’t threaten love—what if they protected it?

Boundaries help you stay connected without abandoning yourself.

They’re how you stay in the relationship and in your body at the same time.

🧭 Try This:

Reflection Prompt:

When did I last override my own need just to keep someone close?

Practice:

Say this aloud:

“I matter, too. My needs are worthy of space.”

Then practice a soft boundary in writing, like:

“I care about you deeply, and I need some time to process before I respond.”

Your clarity isn’t a threat. It’s a form of love.

You’re learning to trust your voice. That’s everything.

Want to learn a bit more about attachment from the Coming Home to Love Retreat Facilitators?

Check out this conversation exploring attachment and how we can heal it.

Until next time, love well.

With so much support,

Dolphin, Phillipe & Francesca - The Journey To Secure Team