Hey ,

When your attachment style is disorganized, boundaries can feel incredibly confusing.

You might long for closeness but then panic when someone gets too close. You might say yes when you mean no, or push someone away before they leave.

Boundaries can help bring coherence to the chaos inside.

They give your parts something to hold onto—clear signals that say:

“This is what’s okay for me. And this is what helps me feel safe.”

🧭 Try This:

Inner Listening Prompt:

Which part of me feels overwhelmed by closeness? What boundary might help it stay regulated?

Script to Try:

“I want to stay connected, and I need to slow things down so I can stay present.”

You can want love and space.

You can be afraid and still show up.

Boundaries help you stay with yourself through it all.

You’re already doing something brave.

Want to learn a bit more about attachment from the Coming Home to Love Retreat Facilitators?

Check out this conversation exploring attachment and how we can heal it.

Until next time, love well.

With tenderness,

Dolphin, Phillipe & Francesca - The Journey To Secure Team