what's dating really like in Japan (according to Japanese women)
Jul 15, 2025 3:46 am
Konnichiwa from the Japan Switch Team!
Dating can be a mystery in our own cultures, so it should come as no surprise that dating in Japan, too, can be a little confusing at times.
Take goukon - the blind group date (3-5 men and equal number of women, but sometimes more) which is popular among younger crowds. It can almost feel like a dating show (without the curtains, cameras, and shocking reveals).
But one thing that can make or break a goukon? The MC, who typically organized the event. It's on them to lead the introductions, some general banter, initiate drinking games, and set the tone before people break off to sit with and get to know each other individually.
I could go on, but I'll let our authors give you the real breakdown on dating in Japan!
What You Should Know Before Dating a Japanese Girl
Sitting down with 3 native Japanese women, they spared no details on what you need to know before you get serious with a Japanese girl. From knowing what type of girl you're dating, to unspoken expectations, to hook-up culture, to what confidence looks like, and beyond!
Ultimate Guide to (Dating) Japanese Men
Japanese men have a bit of a mixed reputation, if you believe what you've seen on social media. Quiet. Stoic. Too polite or reserved. Or maybe it's the opposite? Controlling. Distant. Clinging to outdated gender roles. Let's be honest - the internet loves a stereotype, but the reality is far more nuanced. You'll meet men who meet each of those criteria at some point, but they're not necessarily indicative of the whole group. From first dates, to how to approach, to the cultural barriers for international couples, read on!
Ultimate Guide to Dating in Japan
If you're looking for a Dating in Japan 101 - this is it. We talk customs, where to meet people, and 11 unique and surprising aspects of Japanese dating culture!
Side note: If you're serious about visiting or living in Japan, check out Japan Switch's affordable online and offline Japanese lessons and make sure you're ready to make the most of your time here!
For more information or other updates and tips on life in Japan, be sure to check out our website here.
Your Friends,
The Japan Switch Team
