this one is for the romantics
Nov 17, 2025 3:16 am
Konnichiwa from the Japan Switch Team!
In Western dating, you’re usually talking, dating, or stuck in a messy situationship, right?
But in Japan, there’s a whole intentional middle phase called aimai na kankei, which means “ambiguous relationship.” It’s a recognized step where you build chemistry slowly.
You hang out one-on-one, text every day, get emotionally close… and still aren’t officially dating until someone does a formal kokuhaku (confession).
It’s not always like this, of course. People date however they want. But knowing this rhythm helps, since it’s one of the ways the pacing of love and romance really differs here.
So let's get into it!
Ultimate Guide to Dating in Japan
If you're looking for a Dating in Japan 101 - this is it. We talk customs, where to meet people, and 11 unique and surprising aspects of Japanese dating culture!
Top 27 Japanese Love Sayings (And What They Actually Mean)
We mentioned kokuhaku earlier, but how do people actually do it? Is it just bowing and shouting 'please be my partner!' in Japanese? The old 'tsukiatte kudasai' (please date me) is a time-honored classic, but that's certainly not the only way to do it! If you were to go that route, you might feel like you're just impersonating an anime scene - something we strongly advise against.
Ultimate Guide to Getting Married in Japan
Hohoho... The big one. If things have gotten this far, that's great! Now that you're ready to tie the knot, you'll have a lot of paperwork to do, and a lot of choices to make. Traditional Japanese wedding? Western-style church wedding? The Japanese are rather fond of French cuisine at their receptions (often referred to as 'wedding parties').
Side note: If you're serious about visiting or living in Japan, check out Japan Switch's affordable online and offline Japanese lessons and make sure you're ready to make the most of your time here!
For more information or other updates and tips on life in Japan, be sure to check out our blog here.
Your Friends,
The Japan Switch Team
