The Essence of True Love: Knowing and Choosing Deliberately

Glee greetings, ,

I hope this musing finds you in a state of love and understanding. Today, I want to write about a profound concept that lies at the heart of genuine love - the importance of knowing people before we choose to love them deliberately and consciously.

It's a ratrace here on God's aging earth, so fast-paced we often rush into everything and anything, including relationships, driven by the sparks of initial attraction, infatuation, or desire. It's easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of emotions and forget that true love requires a deeper understanding of the person beneath the surface.

Pause. Take a deep breathe.

You need to know people. That is the only way you can love them.

When you truly know someone, , you understand their strengths and weaknesses, their hopes and dreams, and their fears and insecurities. Not with resentment, not out of ignorance, not out of deception, but one of genuine kindness. You know what makes them happy and what makes them sad. You know what they need from you and what they can offer you.

This knowledge is essential for building a strong and lasting relationship. When you know someone well, you're better able to communicate with them, understand them, and support them. You're also less likely to be surprised or disappointed by their actions, because you know who they are and what they're capable of.

But the journey doesn't stop at knowing someone; it extends to a deliberate and conscious choice to love them. This means accepting them for who they are, imperfections and all. It means recognizing their flaws, yet choosing to stand by their side, not out of resentment or obligation, but out of a genuine desire to nurture and support them.

, choosing to love someone deliberately and consciously is an act of profound kindness. It's a commitment to work through challenges, to communicate openly, and to grow together. It's a decision to love authentically, unburdened by illusions or deceptions.

True love is not a fairytale where everything is perfect from the start. It's a journey where we encounter obstacles, differences, and moments of vulnerability. Yet, it's precisely in these moments that our love can shine brightest, as we extend our hand in kindness and understanding.

So, , how do you get to know someone well? Here are a few tips:

Spend time together

The more time you spend with someone, the better you'll get to know them. Get to know their friends and family, and participate in their hobbies and interests.

Communicate openly and honestly

Be willing to share your thoughts and feelings with each other, even the difficult ones. Listen to what the other person has to say, and try to understand their perspective.

Be respectful and supportive

Everyone needs someone who believes in them and encourages them to be their best selves. Be there for your partner when they need you, and celebrate their successes with them.

Getting to know someone well takes time and effort. But it's an investment that's worth making, if you want to build a strong and lasting relationship.

So, , as you navigate the complex terrain of human relationships, always remember to deliberately know people deeply and choose to love them consciously. Embrace the imperfections that make them beautifully human, and love with a heart full of genuine kindness.

May your journey of love be filled with understanding, acceptance, and a conscious choice to cherish the unique souls you encounter along the way.

With ❤️,

Jaachị "deliberate lover" Anyatọnwụ