Discovering Your True Self

Glee greetings, .

When you gaze into the mirror, do you see boundless potential and purpose?

Can you envision a person capable of greatness, resilience, and making a meaningful impact on the world?

If your answer isn't a confident "yes," then this musing is specifically yours!

How do you see and think of yourself?

To embark on a transformative journey, one must begin with introspection. The knowledge of who you are is the key to dispelling the fear of the unknown.

In our life's sojourn, we often find ourselves trapped in the cacophony of the external world. We're bombarded from all sides with societal expectations, judgments, stereotypes, and the pressure to conform to predefined norms. We're incessantly told who we ought to be, how we should appear, and the timeline for our achievements.

Amidst this relentless clamour, we often lose ourselves. We seldom pause to truly explore, recognize, and comprehend our authentic selves.

So, I ask you, who are you, ?

To address this question—if you haven't already—learn to embrace solitude. Some of us fear our own company. We want to always be in the crowd, amongst a sea of countless heads, in some noisy, happy-go-lucky company. We avoid the silence that lets us hear our inner thoughts. Yet, you can not truly know yourself without spending time alone.

Imagine you are an onion ball. Onions come in layers, right? In order to get the real edible content, one must peel off layers of unwanted parts. To fathom your true self, you must peel away the external labels and dive into the core of your existence—your heart, passions, and dreams.

Your Genuine Likes or Peer Pressure?

Ask yourself: What do I genuinely enjoy? Is it shawarma because it tickles my taste buds, or is it because it's my bestie's favourite?

Am I single because no one is interested in me, or is it because I'm scared of commitment?

Is this tech skill truly something I'm passionate about, or am I doing it because of peer pressure?

Am I an introvert who cherishes solitude, or is it because my upbringing constrained me, making me wary of social interactions?

If your answers—honest answers—to those questions are not 100% satisfactory, it's about time you sit down and reflect on your personality.

Your Strengths

Think about your strengths and embrace them. Whether it's leading, encouraging, counselling, showing empathy, de-escalating tensions, or persuasive salesmanship. Think it through and thoroughly, and channel your energy towards building your true self on the bricks of those strengths.

Weakness Too

Acknowledge your weaknesses, too. Losing your temper too quickly, impatience, avoidance of confrontation, or selfishness—these are facets of your humanity. Face them, accept them, and commit to intentional self-improvement.

Phobias

We all have fears and phobia. For some, it is fear of success and others' fear of failure. For some, it is fear of taking that first bold step, and for others it's fear of finishing well. You have got to learn to face your fears. Dismiss doubt and fear; they're futile. Master your thoughts and shape a favourable reality. Remember, you are what you think. If you think you can't, you won't be able to. Fear cripples!

Self Esteem/Worth

Your self-perception shapes how others perceive you. If you don't believe you're worthy, others will follow suit. Don't aabotage yourself.

Your worth transcends external accomplishments or societal pressures. It's not bound by your job title, bank account, or accolades. You are inherently valuable, and your worth shines through your kindness, resilience, empathy, and the impact you have on others.

The World Will Adjust

As you unearth your true self, challenge the societal limitations. You need not conform. Do you (hey, it has to something positive. Don’t go rogue). Embrace your individuality; it's what makes you extraordinary.

With ❤️,

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