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Article
Why Doesn’t She Just Tell Me What She Wants?
And Why That’s Completely the Wrong Question
Article By Colin Richards, Intimacy Engineer & Founder of Intimacy Matters
Let’s start with a truth that many men find maddening, confusing—or at the very least—deeply perplexing: Most women don’t know exactly what they want sexually. And even if they do, they’d really prefer you figured it out for yourself.
Yes, I know. That might sound like a set-up. But let me explain why this is not only true but beautifully logical—if you care to understand how a woman experiences arousal, intimacy, and ultimately, desire.
The Myth of “Just Tell Me What You Want”
In theory, it makes sense. You ask her what she wants. She tells you. You do it. Everyone’s happy. But in practice? That’s not how female desire works.
Most women didn’t grow up being encouraged to explore their erotic preferences. They’ve often spent years (if not decades) being told what not to want—don’t be too loud, too wild, too needy, too “slutty,” too this or that. So is it really surprising that many women hit their 30s, 40s or even 50s still uncertain about what really turns them on?
Combine this with the simple truth that desire is not a checklist. For women, arousal is a journey of sensations, not a destination with turn-by-turn GPS instructions. A woman may feel what she wants long before she can name it—and if you’re expecting her to hand you a written script, you’ve already missed the point. Read the full article - Click Here
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The Sensual Massage Socials
For Couples and Intimate Friends
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Saturday 20th September 4pm to 8pm
Sunday 2nd November 4pm to 8pm
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Article
HEALING THE WOUND
How Authentic Sex Education and Sensual Touch Can Counter Misogyny and Sexual Aggression in Young Men
By Colin Richards, Intimacy Matters
There is a growing and troubling phenomenon among young men today—one that is fuelled by the darker currents of online culture, pornography, and social alienation. Misogyny, entitlement, and aggressive sexual behaviour are not only increasingly visible but are becoming internalised as normal by some segments of male youth. Nowhere is this more dangerously evident than in the rise of the Incel movement—”involuntary celibates”—a subculture of disaffected young men whose frustration at their lack of intimacy curdles into anger and even hatred toward women.
This is not a fringe issue. Incel-related forums and influencers garner millions of views, and their rhetoric spills over into gaming culture, TikTok, and Instagram. The underlying message? That women are cruel gatekeepers of sex, that masculinity is best expressed through dominance, and that vulnerability and affection are weaknesses. Add a cocktail of easily accessible extreme porn, algorithmically-fed grievance content, and absent or inadequate sex education—and you have a generation of boys being shaped by misinformation, fear, and fury. But there is an antidote. Read the full article Click Here
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