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Are You Heterobisensual ?

Language around sexuality is evolving—not because people are becoming more confused, but because they are becoming more precise. Over the past decade, I’ve noticed a growing number of people searching for words that better reflect their lived experience rather than squeezing themselves into rigid, inherited categories. One such term now entering popular conversation is heteroflexible. Alongside it, a quieter, more nuanced phrase is also emerging: heterobisensual. Both attempt to describe something many people feel but have struggled to articulate.

At Intimacy Matters, I see this evolution of language not as a trend, but as a healthy response to the complexity of human desire.

What Does “Heteroflexible” Mean?

Heteroflexible is most commonly used by people who identify primarily as heterosexual but acknowledge a degree of same-gender attraction or curiosity. For some, this may mean occasional fantasies, kisses, or sexual encounters; for others, it reflects emotional or sensual openness rather than ongoing sexual relationships.

Crucially, heteroflexible does not usually imply a 50/50 attraction. The person’s core sexual identity remains heterosexual, but with flexibility at the edges. It is a way of saying: “My desire is not fragile. It can bend without breaking.”

For many, the term feels less confronting than bisexual. It allows room for exploration without the pressure to redefine one’s entire identity or to invite assumptions about behaviour, relationships, or future intentions.

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The Politics of Impotence

Brent Molnar is a writer and satirist whom I follow. He writes regularly about the current situation and atmosphere in the US. Recently, in a text conversation with Brent, I mentioned my observations that sexuality plays a big part in the creation of autocratic bullies and that much of the world’s aggression stems from damaged, warped, confined, and suppressed sexuality. I am flattered that Brent has taken my thoughts and written an excellent piece on this very subject. Take a moment to read the first few paragraphs below, then click on the link to read Brent’s full piece on Substack. Why the World’s Biggest Bullies are the Smallest Men.

Colin Richards

Why the World’s Biggest Bullies are the Smallest Men

We often make the catastrophic mistake of analysing dictators and demagogues through the lens of political science. We talk about “geopolitical strategy,” “nationalist fervour,” and “economic populism.” We treat their actions as if they are the result of 4D chess moves played by master strategists. But if you really want to understand why the world is currently on fire, you shouldn’t be looking at a map of Europe or a spreadsheet of tariffs. You should be looking at a therapy chart.

To understand the 47th President, you don't need to read the Constitution; you need to read a textbook on attachment theory and early childhood trauma. We are watching the real-time decomposition of a man defined by early maternal rejection and a father, Fred Trump, who demanded absolute emotional stoicism. In the Trump household, "feelings" were weakness, and weakness was a capital offence.

The result is a man who stopped developing emotionally at the age of the trauma. He is a "Killer" (his father's favourite term) because the only alternative was to be a victim. His entire life has been a frantic attempt to prove to a cold, dead father that he is a "success." The gold towers, the supermodels, and the obsession with crowd sizes are not the trophies of a winner; they are the pacifiers of a wounded child who is still waiting for mommy to come back and daddy to say "good job."

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