Well hello there Mama bear!

Did you read the subject line of today's email? Did it surprise you?

Growing up in Australia in the 1980s, putting yourself forward or putting yourself first, was pretty much frowned upon. It was seen as being "up yourself", a "show off" or even "a bit of a wanker" (for the non Aussies reading this, that's basically slang for being conceited and arrogant!). Let's just say that people in general didn't think much of "braggers" and as kids we were definitely discouraged from doing this kind of thing.

So, where does all this self deprecation and discouragement from celebrating our own uniqueness get us? Often it leads to being a people pleaser, someone that can't say no and always putting our own needs last. Ooof!!

What we must realise as Mums though, is that putting our own needs FIRST is genuinely beneficial for our kids! And why is that so? Let me count the ways...

1. Having firm boundaries as a Mum sets a great example and teaches our kids that they too can set boundaries
2. It's a live demonstration to our kids that they shouldn't let others walk all over them
3. What we model, our kids will (eventually...) follow. So unless we want to raise another generation of overwhelmed people pleasers, we need to show our kids something different
4. Prioritising your own needs leads to greater mental and physical health and wellbeing for you, which in turn means we can hold space for our kiddos with greater clarity, kindness and empathy - because OUR cup is full

Which one of these benefits hits home the most for you? Hit reply and let me know!

Yours in kindness,

Michelle

Flourish Mama