I love my family.

More than anything.

And because I love them so much, I value their opinion over many other people’s.

That’s normal.

The problem is, most of their advice is atrocious.

Let’s get into it.

You see, your parents are from a separate era.

I’m not calling them dinosaurs.

But they’re simply not fully in-tune with the modern world.

My mum doesn’t own a smartphone.

At the slightest mention of an app her face goes blank.

She hears me talk about social media and looks at me as if I’m discussing a mythical creature.

She’s constantly asking me to do basic things for her online which a modern toddler can do.

Although my dad takes pride in being more “advanced” than her, he too struggles with technology.

The way he uses his laptop amazes me.

It’s like he’s got a slow motion setting in his brain that.

Everything he does takes ages and the way he uses the computer is baffling.

This doesn’t just apply to computers.

I remember playing Nazi Zombies on my Xbox 360 over a decade ago.

My skill was sensational and I was slaying zombies left and right.

Naturally, my dad got curious and wanted to try it himself.

I handed him the controller and he had no idea what to do.

His brain simply couldn’t work out how to coordinate his hands and his eyes.

Something that was instinctive for me felt foreign to him.

So, how does this have anything to do with advice?

It actually has a lot to do with it.

Let me explain.

As I’ve already said, your parents are from a different time.

And the world we live in now is changing constantly.

The advice they give may come from a good place.

They obviously want what’s best for you and want to see you succeed.

The problem is, they’re simply unaware of the opportunities that the modern

world has to offer.

When I was 18, every adult in my life was advising me to go to university.

My parents, my aunties and uncles.

And of course, my teachers.

I don’t doubt all of these people meant well.

They were obviously not trying to lead me down a faulty path.

But is university objectively the best route to go down in the modern world?

The answer is obvious:

It depends.

For some it makes perfect sense.

For others it makes no sense at all.

In my case, it didn’t make any sense.

I’d have been better off joining the army than going to university.

Before going, I was smoking weed every single day.

After going, I became completely addicted and began indulging in a lot more drugs.

I’m not blaming university for my actions.

That would be ridiculous.

All I’m saying is, I wasn’t in a mental position to take advantage of the

opportunity I’d been given.

I’m not one of those people who views university as a scam.

Sure, it’s overpriced and many degrees aren’t worth diddly squat.

But for some people, graduating from a university is essential.

In my case, it didn’t make any sense.

But for one of my flatmates who wanted to become an engineer, it was necessary.

This is the problem with most advice:

It’s general.

It doesn’t take your personal goals and strengths into account.

If I knew back then what I wanted to do now, it’s obvious that going to university

wouldn’t be the best idea.

But I didn’t know what I wanted to do.

Neither did the people around me.

But because they all went to university and they were all told to go to university,

they told me to do the same.

Again, it’s not their fault.

They’re from a different time.

They’re simply unaware of what the internet has made possible.

A few weeks ago, I told my dad about a YouTuber named Hamza.

This YouTuber is making over $100,000 every single month from a private community.

How does he grow his business?

Just by making videos of him talking to a camera and uploading them on YouTube.

He almost couldn’t believe it.

My dad is also an entrepreneur, but his business doesn’t make anywhere near

that kind of money.

The fact that some guy who uploads videos on the internet for a living is able to

make that much money is insane.

And it’s a fact which the older generation just don’t understand.

They’ve never seen it.

And because they lack awareness, they’re oblivious to what’s possible now.

This is why their advice should be ignored.

Especially if it’s unsolicited.

You should still love them with all your heart.

And whenever they do advise you on what to do, understand that they’re trying to help.

But also be aware that the advice they give is outdated.

Technology is advancing every single day and the meta of life is constantly

changing.

A few years ago, people would have laughed at you if you told them most people would be working remotely.

In 2020, this became the norm.

A decade ago, people would have thought you were crazy for saying a YouTuber would have more views than most television networks.

Today, we have Mr. Beast.

Let’s talk about him for a second.

Mr Beast is one of the most viewed people in the world right now.

Yet, my parents have no idea who he is.

Everyone my age knows exactly who he is.

Older people don’t.

Now I’m not saying Mr Beast is some bastion of culture.

But the fact that the older generation doesn’t know who the most viewed

content creator in the world is should tell you something.

It tells you, they’re not in touch with modern culture.

And if they don’t have their fingers on the pulse of what’s relevant, how are they

supposed to give you sound advice?

The answer is simple:

They can’t.

The good news is, there are so many people who can give you advice.

You’re no stranger to the internet.

You’ve been using this thing for most of your life.

With just a few clicks of a button, you can find someone who’s doing exactly what you want to be doing with your life.

They’re not giving you advice that their parents gave them.

They’re not running unconscious programming and relaying it to you.

They’ve broken free of the Matrix and have made an amazing life for

themselves.

Most of them teach you how to do the same.

With the internet, you’re able to find people who are just a few steps ahead of you.

People who are closer to you in age.

People who you relate to.

And a lot of these people are sharing their journeys with the world.

Without discovering these people, I wouldn’t be writing this post right now (sharing my own lessons).

Who knows where I’d be without them?

I don’t want you to make the same mistake I made.

Keep this lesson in mind and start living your ideal life.

It's kind of ironic that I'm giving you advice to ignore other people's advice.

But hey, I'm not your parents.

I'm just a guy trying to share my lessons.

Thanks for reading,

Godfrey