One of my realizations from this year’s "CAMPAIGNS" was this...
Your choice for any candidate is heavily influenced (or should I say "distorted") by your emotions.
In this year’s campaigns, candidates would normally say hateful comments with each other to ruin each other’s image and win the hearts of the people.
Pinaka toxic ngayon ang away ng loyalists ni BBM at Leni.
Leni supporters would call BBM “Magnanakaw” while BBM supporters would call Leni as “Lutang.”
The reason?
They simply wanna prove something out of their emotional stand- that they’re RIGHT.
When each party tried to show proof of their claims, they missed terribly the point that it would hurt family and friends of the concerned parties.
Minsan, below the belt na talaga ang mga accusations..
And dahil nga these loyalists try to depend on their chosen hero, they didn't know how to process those insults often so it turned into anger...because it was easier to express.
Whenever we remember any opposition and what he / she did that we hated, we CHOOSE to see the memories with anger.
That's why we had a "distorted" view of any opposition.
For example...
Adult Leni supporters believe BBM’s dad (FEM) didn’t really contribute to the country’s growth that much because his corruption couldn’t even match what he did for the country and it’s his responsibility as president to help the country grow after all.
The reality for some is... FEM really did great when he was the president of our country because we’re close to the level of elites before and the price of common goods are also low.
It's the same with other beliefs that Leni isn’t a good government servant and not qualified. Because for some, she has this heart to serve and wonderful track record.
I'm telling you this because YOU do the same thing.
Almost every good or bad memory you have in your relationship (whether good or bad) is influenced by your emotions.
For example, I hated it when I remember that he had the guts to have sex with another woman when I know for a fact I can perform well. I always thought it’s an insult to my capacity in bed.
In reality, I really couldn’t perform well at those times because I had a C-section and nahihirapan pa ako sa mga hard core moves ko. LOL (Although it shouldn't be a valid excuse to cheat ha)
Now...
How can you use this to faster healing?
Whenever you tap into your "collective memory" , you trigger the most potent emotional drug of all --- NOSTALGIA.
When nostalgia hits, you're immediately (but subtly) overwhelmed with your emotion.
It's like when you hear your old high school alarm bell and remember the good old days.
Or when you remember what you felt when you hear Rihanna or Taylor Swift’s songs.
Or when you suddenly feel a bit sad when you see "the one that got away."
It's potent and can turn ANYONE emotional.
In Healing After Cheating, you can trigger this by referencing a "collective memory."
You see...
Each relationship has its own "defining moments."
For example, everyone knew how they started their relationship with all the sweetness despite the imperfection.
And it’s the same with your healing.
When you know how to dream again and imagine that dream as a beautiful win after the pain, you’ll learn how to use that beautiful emotion to help you move forward.
And speaking of moving forward, I have good news for you.
Since Moms are so special in my heart and because today is Mother’s Day, I'm giving away the meat of my Healing After Cheating membership program - My Survival Secrets for the price of your branded pants ONLY.
I’m doing this 7-Day special offer for you to dream and TRUST yourself again.
Check this link to see the full details.
To Helping You Heal Fast,
FJ Lapera
P.S. What "defining moment" in your relationship do you still remember? For me, it was when his mother died. It helped me see his strength and genuine love for his mother. What about you? :)
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