A lot of Depressed Cheated Women think you can just forgive easily when you're closer to God.
But that's not actually true at all .
Here's why.
I claim as a follower of Jesus back then.
Nagsisimba naman ako and I also pray.
So I feel like I'm a good Christian.
But when betrayal came, my inner demon went out.
Alam mo yung dumaan ako sa point na ginusto ko na lang sya mamatay para mawala na rin yung galit sa puso ko.
Inisip ko noon parang karma nya na yun.
When you're a Christian and you're betrayed, mas masakit ang effect sayo.
Kasi you tend to question God bigtime like...
Naging mabuti ka naman akong asawa or partner sa mahal ko pero bakit nagawa nya pa rin sa akin Lord?
Then you'll have so much bitterness within you that you'll find it hard to forgive.
Pero bilang Christian, kahit mahirap mag forgive, God would make ways.
I only understood God's principles more when I heard more stories similar as mine, studied betrayal cases and implemented the secrets on myself.
Then as I studied the psychology of our behavior, I realized lots of differences between me and my partner that are also in lined with God's manufacture of man and woman.
I also understood na sa case ko, God is teaching me na una pa lang, I didn't follow the design of relationship that he laid out for me.
Lalo na we engaged in pre-marital sex.
Kaya even if hindi guarantee ang kasal for faithfulness, big factor ang unprepared heart namin for marriage for his betrayal.
I had forgiven my partner many times.
And when I started counseling, I had the guilt na kahit okay na kami, I'm not okay in God's eyes.
I had so much guilt counseling pero... I am still imperfect in God's eyes.
So... it was another HARD JOURNEY for me to give him up to Him first.
Alam mo yung alam mo namang mahal na mahal mo ang isang tao pero mas may dapat kang sundin muna na mas nakaka taas sa mahal mo.
That's why my heartbreak the 1st quarter this year was bigtime.
That's why if long time email subscriber ka na... you might notice nag rest ako giving value for quiet some time.
Listen.
During my journey of counseling Depressed Cheated Women like I was, I understood that the psychology of God's rebuke inline with human nature is important.
That's why this year, I followed God's hard rebuke to me of avoiding pre-marital sex.
Di kasi kami kasal.
And... God showed me reasons why di rin kasal ang makaka ayos sa relationship namin.
I cried.
He cried.
And I know God sees our individual hearts.
Napaka sakit e let go ang isang taong minamahal mo when you follow God's rebuke even if you feel like he's doing his best to be better.
Napaka sakit sa simula to follow the right path of holistic healing.
And that's the same with betrayal.
Bilang isang betrayed woman noon, alam ko masakit tanggapin na need mo sya patawarin.
Pero minsan kahit labag sa loob mo, you still try to forgive.
Kaya ending, "HILAW" ang pagpapatawad mo.
In my 3 years journey to Healing After Cheating, with 2 years counseling...
I finally can say na mas masakit at mas mahirap magpatawad kung isa kang Christian.
Coz you dream of perfection.
You dream of a fairy stale story na walang bahid ng mali.
But when you discover the truths to deeper inner healing while understanding the concepts of human behavior, you'll finally embrace victory.
And you can finally say that it's not TIME na magpapa heal sayo.
It's your unshakable faith, clarity in decision making, and pure forgiveness and love.
And if you want to shorten your journey to healing and avoid those mistakes I had...
To your peace and joy,
FJ Lapera
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