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I promised inside the HAC Community to send to you an email starting yesterday at 8am. So I guess na disappoint kita.
Tama ba ang hinala ko?
Well, if you're already inside our Healing After Cheating Community since nag register ka for our FREE Webinar, something technical happened and it kinda cost my sanity.
Na stress ang mother earth mo sa recent "Admin Assist" ni Peysbuk that I added after it popped.
I was disappointed and did my best on resolving it ASAP naman but it took so much energy on my end.
Sa buhay natin, marami tayong madadaanang disappointments and lapses na rin while trying to perfect everything.
Lalo na ang relasyong pinaghirapan and pinoprotektahan natin.
So when the majority of the Depressed Cheated Women start to implement a better version of themselves after experiencing betrayal...
I go the opposite direction.
Or hahanap ako ng isa pang strategy.
Or I'll use an upgraded version of that strategy.
At least, I don't wanna disappoint myself.
I know following what the majority does will almost always lead to self-destruction.
That's what happened to "inner kindness."
Almost everyone has one.
And the sad part is, they don't implement it correctly.
It worked at first. But their husbands caught on, realized it was a strategy to make them feel guilty, and then they started ignoring it.
So I moved away from it.
Now, don't get me wrong. I still use my inner kindness and deep compassion even to people I don’t know (likas na talaga yang kabaitan mo sis).
But I increase its effectiveness 10X by living my unpredictable self. :)
Siguro narinig mo na to before. And yes, it sounds simple.
But I assure you. It's much harder than it sounds.
Before I show you my "go-to" attitude for exuding my "Unpredictable Self"...
Let me share with you why this works.
For centuries, men and women have had a love-hate relationship.
When we see something wrong with our significant other, we observe and try to distance ourselves until we know we’re safe.
Ginagawa mo nga rin to even with rare animals or any strange food. lol
So if you see something that's unknown or behaves unpredictably, your attention is IMMEDIATELY hijacked.
Our brains prioritizes it UNTIL we classify it as "safe."
That's why adding the element of unpredictability in your character can instantly improve your relationship...almost overnight.
Your husband or significant other wants to subconsciously know what's next so he knows it's still safe to have you around even if isa kang ALIEN.
Now, how do you do this in your relationship?
Let me give you 3 ways:
1. A counter-intuitive personality
You go against what the mainstream media tells you is the solution.
"You need to be who you are according to your beliefs, vows, and faith plus stick to it no matter what and even if no one sees you."
"Submitting to him yet having your own decisions, independence and voice in the family."
2. Paradoxical Arguments
Medyo tricky to sis. But once you discover more about your other half, you'll be able to say paradoxical statements to him during your conversation to make him realize something about you.
This will be your statement or reaction that seemingly opposes his belief of himself or you. But once he deeply investigates, he’ll know it’s true.
"You’re a great husband and father despite your imperfection."
"Here's how I feel like you can save yourself by destroying your habits."
3. Leveling up your financial mindset
I know this is even harder lalo na sa mga walang work na Nanay. But trust me… having your own source of income is biblical.
Check out Proverbs 31.
There’s a reason why men are drawn to strong and independent women who can carry themselves whatever situation life would throw at them.
Kaya may work ka man ngayon or wala… think of more possibilities of leveling up your financial career.
This will give you more confidence na kahit anuman ang mangyari… kayang kaya mo ang sarili mo at anak mo buhayin.
Lots of moms would email me about lack of financial support from husbands.
Yung iba di na talaga nagsusuporta sa anak.
Truth is… there will always be a powerful feeling when you know you can handle everything even just by yourself - even if the law says may habol ka sa sustento.
That's all I have today.
Talk to you LIVE tomorrow kasi bukas na pala ng gabi yung live webinar natin.
To your freedom from pain,
FJ Lapera
P.S. I do read your email replies okay?
A few of you messaged me about resuming my videos.
I'll surely be back to short videos next year.
Will not do weekly FJ Love Therapy sa page na because I'm getting busy as a hands on mom. If gagawin ko pa ang pag live, through the HAC Community pa minsan or through webinars na lang siguro for me to get commitment from those need talaga ng help.
Anyway, anong takeaway mo sa 3 WAYS that I shared?
I just wanna hear from you. :)
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