I guess a lot of women will get mad at me kung sasabihin ko to.
Especially those who teach this.
But being kind won't really help you heal fast, redeem your self-confidence and trust yourself again.
Your "kind attitude" will NO LONGER attract any man to love you more than any other woman na umaaligid sa kanya.
Why?
Because of two reasons:
Reason #1: Everyone has their own "genuine and kind self."
If you're the only woman who is kind, loving and generous in your friend group, you'll immediately stand out.
They'll ask questions like --- "Paano mo nagagawang hindi magalit sa akin sis?"
or "Ano ba ang dapat kung gawin para magkaroon pa ako ng patience sa workmates ko kagaya mo?"
But when everyone has a pleasing personality at angking kabaitan lalo na sa office nyo or kahit sa family nyo, no one bothers looking at your own kindness and care for them.
The same goes for relationships.
Minsan taken for granted na ang ginagawa mo para sa pamilya.
If every Kabit is saying "Mabait naman ako" --- and you do the same --- magiging useless ang kabaitan mo sa significant other mo.
You won't stand out.
Is there a way to combat this?
Yes...
But before I tell you how, I wanna share with you reason #2 first.
Reason #2: Women made the word "kind" cheap.
A lot of Depressed Cheated Women see themselves as "kind and religious"...
But whenever problems arise like their man's betrayal, there's NO MORE kindness in their hearts, words and actions.
They even take revenge on their husbands to get even.
Worse?
You'll see them just cry and pity themselves for thinking they can't do anything to win kasi feeling nila wala silang laban or...
feeling nila wala na silang may maganda pang magagawa kasi ang kabaitan nila ay naubos na.
Puro galit na lang ang natira matapos malaman ang greatest revelation na sumabog sa harapan nila.
Until AWA na lang ang nakikita ng husband nila sa kanila.
That's why every Kabit's trust in themselves is higher than ever.
So...
How do you remedy this?
How can you stand out in your relationship where any other woman can just show kindness dahil gusto nyang masungkit ang dapat sayo?
Simple.
Be an alien. :)
When done correctly, all of the attention, love and respect go to YOU even when… you still hated him.
Here's why:
When you live in a place where everyone is kind and beautiful, yes lang ng yes, and puro lang buhos ng pagmamahal at sunod ng sunod sayo...you tend to get used to it.
Nothing surprises you anymore.
But when an Alien arrives, you drop everything to see what's happening.
You wanna know what she's going to do next.
Is the Alien a friend or a foe?
Is the Alien going to save us or annihilate us?
Whatever their next move is, you pay attention to.
Now...
If you wanna know what "Alien-type" women look like...
Check out Toni Gonzaga, Neri Miranda, and Oprah Winfrey.
If you want to know how to implement the type of characteristic they possess -- and not rely on "kindness" so much -- then you have to read my next few emails.
I'll reveal how to do this step-by-step. :)
To your Peace and Joy,
FJ Lapera
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