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I promised to send you my email at 8am today.
So I guess na disappoint kita.
Tama ba ang hinala ko?
Well, I did it on purpose.
Sa buhay natin, marami tayong madadaanang disappointments and lapses na rin while trying to perfect everything.
Lalo na ang relasyong pinaghirapan and pinoprotektahan natin.
So when the majority of the Depressed Cheated Women start to implement a better version of themselves after experiencing betrayal...
I go the opposite direction.
Or hahanap ako ng isa pang strategy.
Or I'll use an upgraded version of that strategy.
At least, I don't wanna disappoint myself.
I know following what the majority does will almost always lead to self-destruction.
That's what happened to "inner kindness."
Almost everyone has one.
And the sad part is, they don't implement it correctly.
It worked at first. But their husbands caught on, realized it was a strategy to make them feel guilty, and then they started ignoring it.
So I moved away from it.
Now, don't get me wrong. I still use my inner kindness and deep compassion even to people I don’t know (likas na talaga yang kabaitan mo sis).
But I increase its effectiveness 10X by living my unpredictable self. :)
Siguro narinig mo na to before. And yes, it sounds simple.
But I assure you. It's much harder than it sounds.
Before I show you my "go-to" attitude for exuding my "Unpredictable Self"...
Let me share with you why this works.
For centuries, men and women have had a love-hate relationship.
When we see something wrong with our significant other, we observe and try to distance ourselves until we know we’re safe.
Ginagawa mo nga rin to even with rare animals or any strange food. lol
So if you see something that's unknown or behaves unpredictably, your attention is IMMEDIATELY hijacked.
Our brains prioritizes it UNTIL we classify it as "safe."
That's why adding the element of unpredictability in your character can instantly improve your relationship...almost overnight.
Your husband or significant other wants to subconsciously know what's next so he knows it's still safe to have you around even if isa kang ALIEN.
Now, how do you do this in your relationship?
Let me give you 3 ways:
1. A counter-intuitive personality
You go against what the mainstream media tells you is the solution.
"You need to be who you are according to your beliefs, vows, and faith plus stick to it no matter what and even if no one sees you."
"Submitting to him yet having your own decisions, independence and voice in the family."
2. Paradoxical Arguments
Medyo tricky to sis. But once you discover more about your other half, you'll be able to say paradoxical statements to him during your conversation to make him realize something about you.
This will be your statement or reaction that seemingly opposes his belief of himself or you. But once he deeply investigates, he’ll know it’s true.
"You’re a great husband and father despite your imperfection."
"Here's how I feel like you can save yourself by destroying your habits."
3. Leveling up your financial mindset
I know this is even harder lalo na sa mga walang work na Nanay. But trust me… having your own source of income is biblical.
Check out Proverbs 31.
There’s a reason why men are drawn to strong and independent women who can carry themselves whatever situation life would throw at them.
Kaya may work ka man ngayon or wala… think of more possibilities of leveling up your financial career.
This will give you more confidence na kahit anuman ang mangyari… kayang kaya mo ang sarili mo at anak mo buhayin.
Lots of moms would email me about lack of financial support from husbands.
Yung iba di na talaga nagsusuporta sa anak.
Truth is… there will always be a powerful feeling when you know you can handle everything even just by yourself - even if the law says may habol ka sa sustento.
That's all I have today.
Talk to you tomorrow.
To your freedom from pain,
FJ Lapera
P.S. I do read your email replies okay? So maraming nagpasalamat sa previous emails that I sent. Some also mentioned mas masarap para maging positive after betrayal compared to staying sa pain.
A few also said they love what I shared.
Well, next week on May 30th, at 8:00 P.M. I’ll do an exclusive Webinar inside the HAC Community.
And I’m sure you’ll even love what I’ll share there.
Never ko pa na share ang lessons na to even sa students ko.
You know me.
When I say NEVER pa… I mean it. ^_^
.Moreover, there will be no recording. I’ll remove it right after the exclusive session inside the FREE Community.
Kaya e plot mo na sa Calendar mo in advance ang schedule na yan on Tuesday next week at… magpa ALARM ka to be sure.
I’ll further announce more details about this webinar pa inside the Healing After Cheating Community.
Anyway, if you’re not yet inside, join the free community and check it out here.
Use this code to be approved inside: “I am FREE.”
Lastly, anong takeaway mo sa 3 WAYS that I shared?
I just wanna hear from you. :)
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