Two (2) times na siyang nagcheat sakin....
Does he deserve another chance? How can I trust him again?
This was a question sent to me by one of you here through email.
And I won't question you if you're also confused whether bibigyan mo pa ba ng another chance or hindi na.
Kasi ramdam ko ang pinagdadaanan mo.
I've been betrayed many times too .
Hindi lang once.
Hindi rin twice.
So bakit pa nga ba?
Masasaktan lang ulit diba?
If I was my old self...
I guess my answer would be NO immediately.
But after coaching Depressed Cheated Women since 2020, I discovered the "APOLOGY" given in every infidelity stories I receive are not exactly the same in terms of maturity.
And so chances given in most cases were paralyzing the betrayed spouse.
Reason why minsan YES at minsan dapat NO muna ang sagot after a man's infidelity or cheating.
Listen up sis.
Even if nasaktan ka pa ng pa ulit2x... when you finally know he deserved the chance, you should give it away.
Coz imagine if yun na ang perfect moment ng apology and you missed it?
Imagine the great things that could happen when you'll finally be together again.
Moreover, para di na umabot sa 2nd, 3rd and 4th na chances ng pagpapatawad...
Importante na sa 1st chance pa lang, perfect timing na and pasado na sa checkpoint mo.
Imagine you driving your car for the first time.
Hindi ba may test drive munang magaganap?
And need mo ng magtuturo sayo kung pasado na ang driving skills mo para sa pakikibaka sa EDSA na sobra pa sa pagong ang traffic tama ba?
Well... it's not good na ma accident ka muna at magasgasan ang flawless legs mo bago ka humingi ng help sa Mama, Papa, brother, sister or anyone expert sa pag drive ng car.
And hindi ba may tinitingnan din silang requirement before they finally say na pwede na?
Ganon din dapat ang pagbibigay ng chances when it comes to healing as a couple.
Need mo mag ask ng help sa taong expert na sa problem mo at tuturuan ka kung kelan pwede na.
Kaya naman ...
Look for mentors.
- Kung nasiraan ka ng sasakyan, sino ba lalapitan mo?
- Kung hindi na lumalamig ang AC, sino ba ang expert sa pag ayos nyan?
- Kung need mo ng help when it comes to Healing After Cheating, sino ba ang kilala mong mapagkakatiwalaan mo sa secrets mo?
Just remember, it doesn't have to be me all the time.
You can look for anyone around you naman.
I'm sure marami dyan ready na tulungan ka.
But the question is... napag daanan ba nila ang pinagdadaanan mo?
May peace of mind and inner joy na rin ba sila ngayon?
Kasi parang pag drive lang ulit ng first car mo yan.
Baka imbis na makapag drive ka ng maayos, mahulog ka pa sa bangin at mas lalo ka lang masaktan.
I hope my simple analogy helped you just in case you have this same concern too.
Kasi honestly, if alam ko lang to noon pa, di na sana ako pa ulit ulit na nasaktan in the past.
Mas ma prevent ko sana ang series of problems resulting from me giving chances in his undefined apologies.
Kaya nga I'm wondering sis...
How many chances na ba ang nabigay mo so far?
To your peace and joy,
FJ "Unlimited Chances Noon" Lapera
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