Hi ,
Can I tell you something I wish someone told me after I got cheated on?
Just waking up and facing the day… was already a big win.
But no one sees that part — the way you sit on the edge of your bed, trying to breathe through the heaviness. The way you force yourself to show up for your kids, for work, for life… while your heart feels like it’s still bleeding.
And yet, we still beat ourselves up like we’re not doing enough.
I want you to hear this: you are not behind. You are rebuilding.
I remember reading this verse one morning when I felt completely crushed:
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” – Psalm 34:18
It didn’t magically fix everything, but it made me breathe deeper.
Because it meant God wasn’t far from me — He was closest when I was at my weakest.
So if you’ve been judging yourself for how long it’s taking…
If you’ve been wondering when you’ll “get over it”...
Please know this: Healing doesn’t have a deadline.
And just because it feels slow doesn’t mean it’s not sacred.
You’re rebuilding something stronger.
Something rooted.
Something real.
One gentle day at a time lang sis.
Yesterday nga I've got responses from my email subscribers.
One mommy said:
Its been two years after my husband betrayed me..kami pa rin pinatawad q sya pero dami pla kaakibat ng forgiveness na un..and hirap pa din mg tiwala..di na q maxado inaatake ng depression pero pg dumadating ung point na un para bumablik sa umpisa ang hirap and bigat lang pero need lumaban para sa mga anak q
Let's take it this way...
Kagaya ng mommy na to na nagpatawad, hindi ibig sabihin na natatapos agad ang sakit. Kasi trusting again takes a lot of work on both sides.
And just like what this mommy also replied yesterday:
hi actually im needing a prayer right now, i thought after 2 years na hiwalay na kmi ok na ko pero hndi pla. I am badly hurt right now not because of his infidelity but the pain and emptiness from my children.
Yung bunso ko keep on asking bakit di na sila tintawagan ng daddy nila bakit hndi na sila dinadalaw then makikita ko sa kabila sobrang saya nila ng kabit nia, looks like a responsible father sa bago niang anak while neglecting his own legal children. that kills me as a mom. ako nlng sana makaramdam ng sakit wag lang sana mga anak ko
Ang sakit pakinggan ano? I simply copied their raw responses here sa email ko sayo today just so you know na di na nag iisa.
That you're not weak simply because you're still feeling any sort of negative emotion within you while still trying to move daily.
And did you notice the difference between them ?
The first one stayed while the other one left.
Pero BOTH may pain.
Both may pinagdadaanang silent battles dahil whether you leave or stay after betrayal, may PROS and CONS yan.
But the most important thing is... everyday in any way, you're getting better and better. ^_^
See you tomorrow okay?
I’ll be right here, writing just for you.
Warmly,
FJ "Cheering you on" Lapera
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