A lot of infidels and wayward women are going to hate me for this…
But I really would love to stress out how I find it an amusingly cruel irony how many beautiful, talented, sexy, good-hearted and wealthy women are led astray by married men.
They know they’re good enough to have a good catch when it comes to men, but run around in circles on their heads and chase married or committed men and be their prey.
The reason why?
I suspect it is often because they don’t know their real value, and only know what they can offer.
They lack the confidence in themselves.
And that’s why men who are fed up in their commitment during the lows of their wives would also be attracted to these type of women for validation.
If this is something that makes you wonder, take note of this:
When selling your value inside your marriage (and even after his betrayal) you must remove the dark-visored helmet of the wife and put on the clear-visored helmet of the single woman.
Very simple.
At least, it should be simple.
Here’s what I mean:
When you know that you’re loved by God and you value and love yourself, there’s no need for you to seek love from anyone else.
Coz by this time, you’re so FULL of yourself.
Remember this greatest teaching about love?
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30 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’
31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”
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You can give away so much inside your marriage once you've done these two principles that you’ll not even be afraid even if he decide to go with his sidechick.
The problem is most marriages happen when you both think you complete each other.
So when problem arises, you resort to finding another person to complete you because you never feel enough.
Meaning, kahit ilang dosena pa ang ipalit ng husband mo sayo… if ang mindset nya ay need nya ng babaeng pupuno sa mga kulang sa buhay nya coz he’s also NOT CONFIDENT about himself…
Magiging miserable pa rin ang ending nya.
That’s why I teach my students first the value of increasing their self-confidence after betrayal.
Yung they’ll come to a point where they’ll finally realize that they’re enough and it’s NOT their fault that their husband or long-term partner cheated.
Yes, they may not be perfect, but it’s not their fault.
Another important thing:
Once you're confident about your decisions, you’ll get respect from your kids.
You’ll be an inspiration that you can do it with or without their dad if iniwan nya kayo.
PLUS, you’ll begin to see your goals for yourself and your family come to life.
If you’re a betrayed woman, wife or mom…
…confidence is one of the KEY THINGS you need to have whenever you sell yourself to your husband.
You need to be confident and assured that what you’re worthy to be loved as his own body.
So…
Here’s my advice:
Improve your confidence first.
Attract him second.
And your marriage will healthily grow from there (if he’s also worth it).
If you have a problem with the first part --- you’ve read everything, done everything, asked help from coaches, counselors, spiritual doctors, and even bought a few books or counseling programs or seminars, but still can’t see an improvement in your self-confidence – then I invite you to join my HAC membership program.
Here’s why I bring this up:
In your healing journey, you may have questions, triggers or sometimes have loneliness issues.
And all these can trigger your loss of self-confidence in your future.
That's why today, I wanna remind you na wag na wag mong kakalimutan ang alagaan at mahalin ang self mo.
As a certified Godly Builder, importante ang kumpyansa mo sa sarili mo, sa decisions mo after his betrayal and... sa faith mo sa future mo even if you don't see yet what's about to happen.
Tagal ko na rin di nakakapag email ano?
But I'm happy you're still here actively waiting for more inspiration from me.
Tomorrow is Thursday and as you all know, I've moved our GB Therapy inside the Hub on Thursday evening.
So... see you when I see you tomorrow at 8:30 pm.
And before I forget, kamusta ka na ?
I hope this email finds you well. ^_^
To keeping you alive,
FJ “Cheering you on” Lapera
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