Kamusta ka na ?
Na miss mo ba ang emails ko?
Anyway, I'm back to writing at you.
And in the next few days, I'll write to you lessons I've learned recently lalo na mula sa pagka matay ng papa ko.
I bet these lessons could help you.
I hope so. Hehe
By the way, salamat sa pakikiramay mo .
Appreciate ko lahat ng mga messages na natanggap ko.
Nakaka ngiti na rin pala ako ngayon.
Madali lang naman kami naka move on kasi tanggap na namin ang death ng papa namin.
Parang sa relasyon mo lang...
Need mo ng acceptance.
And speaking of acceptance...
I'm convicted to share to you this crucial thing we did as we started our new life without our dad.
Honestly, without both parents na ngayon.
Here's the thing.
We had all the reasons to demolish our old house.
Bahay namin yun mula ng bata pa kami.
It's our way to let go na rin of all the memories sa pagka matay ng mama and now nga... papa namin.
Need nga kasi e let go ang mga nagpapa remind sa atin ng kabigatan sa buhay.
And speaking of kabigatan, there's this one simple heavy truth I'd love you to remember.
When it comes to building or rebuilding anything, the foundation is very important.
Kagaya ng bahay namin.
Hindi maganda ang naging foundation nya.
Well, half cement lang yung bahay namin.
I wasn't raised with a silver spoon.
Kaya hollow block lang talaga and walang "finish" kasi siguro kinapos sa budget si Papa noon.
Yung tipong may mga hollows sa loob kaya don dumaan ang anay paakyat.
Pati amakan walls at mga kahoy may mga laman ng lupa.
At dahil nga yung foundation na hollow blocks ay literal na "hollow"...
... through the years, unti2x pinasok ng anay.
Now this may sound gross to you lalo na if di ka lumaki sa hirap.
But that's our reality.
And this might be the reality of your relationship too.
Kung minadali mo ang relationship mo nung mag "jowa" pa lang kayo...
Kung di nyo nakilala ang isa't isa and throughout your marriage naging weak ang communication nyo which is supposed to be one of the foundation to your stronger marriage...
And kung pinatawad mo sya agad2x without him earning your trust and without you building your self-esteem to also help him and not punish him during his courting after betrayal...
Sure akong inaanay na rin ang foundation ng relationship mo ngayon.
Mas magiging madali kasi ang pagwasak ng TRUST Version 2.0 mo.
And I'm not an exception to this.
Naging weak din ang foundation ng relationship ko.
Pinatawad ko rin agad ang partner ko noon.
And... naging mabilis ang apology even without sincerity.
Kaya unti2x, konting kibot lang, triggered ako ulit.
Kahit ayaw ko ng isipin ang mga masamang kahapon, it triggered me and the monster within me was shaped.
Kaya di ko rin sya masisi when during my healing journey, I've pushed him too.
That's why I'm telling you...
Importante ang foundation.
And I hope and pray na whatever is the status of your relationship ngayon, you're focusing on rebuilding this thing.
Lalo na if you are rebuilding the foundation after his betrayal.
So I'm curious...
Kamusta ang naging foundation ng relationship mo ?
To your peace and joy,
FJ Lapera
P.S. I'll send another email tomorrow. Reading my emails is one of the foundation to your Healing After Cheating journey. Kaya don't miss my emails and check your inbox everyday.
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