So I've posted inside the HAC Academy the last time about my #GBwin last September 28th. And today, I'm gonna share more about it.
2 weeks before this date, Ethan's tita texted our eldest that his lolas will come to celebrate his birthday with him.
And days before it, they reminded my sister again that the lolas "daw" will come.
To cut the story short, I agreed alang2x sa anak namin and in respect pa rin sa mga lola nya (not mentioned sinong lola at di na rin ako nag tanong).
Anyway, the day came and to my surprise, isang elf silang pumunta kasama mga bata and mga kababaryo nilang taga luto every occasion na di naman kamag anak.
In short, ang ini expect kong iilang lola lang ay hindi nangyari.
Plus, ang nag iisang tita nya (na lola ni Ethan) wasn't even aware na dadaanan daw sila that day for Ethan's birthday celeb - she told me this noong pauwi na sila.
Anyway, I prepared seats in advance so I told them to sit but they didn't.
What bothered me most was her sister na kung maka kaway at sabi sa anak ko na pumunta sa kanila ay para akong hangin na di nakita.
Moreover, when I told her na don sila sa area that I prepared for them, nagkasagutan kami and she even insulted me na di naman nila ihahampas ang bata (Sobrang nasaktan ako sa actions nya which I further understood noong nakauwi na sila - they're covering up someone pala).
For me, sila na nga ang pinagbigyan kong maka dalaw sa bata dahil kung tutuusin, I could have imposed TOTAL PROTECTION ORDER (TPO) for all of them, removing her brother's work and for them na wag na kami guluhin forever but I didn't just for Ethan's sake.
Then, ang gusto nila ay don sila sa tabi lang ng road mag celebrate na malayo sa area namin and I didn't like it given the fact that my son was forcibly taken from me when he kicked my PC last year. (Nanigurado talaga ako na hindi makuha without my consent ang anak ko)
Dahil I don't want to make further scene at marami pa naman sila at may mga dumating akong customers, di na ako nakipag away pa after ng few sagutan namin.
They also adjusted and their elf came near our "pwesto" kasi nga, malapit lang din kami sa road.
So nag set up sila finally ng mga dala nila including chairs, food etc near us and started their party for my son.
Of course di na ako nakisali kasi di naman ako ang need nila, di rin ako tinawag and most importantly, I don't wanna mess with them anymore.
This further meant overhearing them laughing and celebrating with my son while dinidibdib ang sinabi kong pakikipag sagutan sa ate nya. --- lol (emoterang frog)
But I knew that God really intervened for that day.
The night before pa lang, I forgot my phone sa church namin.
We attended kasi our Friday Revival Night sa church namin as usual and naki charge ako at yun na nga nakalimutan ko bago umuwi. (Imagine, first time ko nakalimutan sa church) haha
Moreover, sakto na nag double date ang 2 kapatid ko sa Davao dahil birthday ng isa kong kapatid that day mismo.
Tapos yung eldest naman namin, may biglaan silang lakad that day sa relatives ng husband nya.
In short, I had a hint in advance na may gagawin si Lord dahil pati ang phone ko ay pinigilan nya coz I already thought in advance na dapat may load talaga ako if ever may commotion na naman. hahaha.
Pero alam mo ano ang pinaka importante for me that day sis???
While I was on that emote mode, the Lord told me to read the Bible.
When I opened, the book of Proverbs 23 was laid before me and...I was amazed sa reminder ni Lord sa akin.
1When you sit to dine with a ruler,
note well what is before you,
2 and put a knife to your throat
if you are given to gluttony.
3 Do not crave his delicacies,
for that food is deceptive.
4 Do not wear yourself out to get rich;
do not trust your own cleverness.
5 Cast but a glance at riches, and they are gone,
for they will surely sprout wings
and fly off to the sky like an eagle.
6 Do not eat the food of a begrudging host,
do not crave his delicacies;
7 for he is the kind of person
who is always thinking about the cost.
“Eat and drink,” he says to you,
but his heart is not with you.
8 You will vomit up the little you have eaten
and will have wasted your compliments.
9 Do not speak to fools,
for they will scorn your prudent words.
10 Do not move an ancient boundary stone
or encroach on the fields of the fatherless,
11 for their Defender is strong;
he will take up their case against you.
12 Apply your heart to instruction
and your ears to words of knowledge.
17 Do not let your heart envy sinners,
but always be zealous for the fear of the Lord.
18 There is surely a future hope for you,
and your hope will not be cut off.
I'll not paste here the rest of the verses from Proverbs 23 na but I'll tell you something memorable...
I was reading these words noong nag se serve na sila ng food pati sa neighbors namin here na kamag anak din namin.
And then, yung kinuha nilang nag alaga kay Ethan dati, brought me food too.
But because of God's words I read before hand, the Lord disciplined me na di maging marupok through food.
Kasi noong papauwi na sila, his aunt (nag iisang lola ni Ethan na naka punta)...
Asked me if pwede ba maka visit si Ethan sa kanila kahit 2 days lang.
Then, I told her NO and that I had my reasons.
When she insisted, I finally re-opened my concern of my son's sexual behavior and how I struggled correcting it.
Sabi nya, di nya raw alam yun and I feel like di nga nya alam.
And so I knew marami pa rin silang di alam na naging struggles ko and ginawa sa akin ng papa ng anak ko kasi I'm sure di naman nila alam ang side ko kasi feeling ko puro side lang nila ang pinapakinggan nila.
Despite everything, I felt like a BIG WINNER for the firm NO I did and her understanding kahit papano why I said no.
Furthermore, I gave his aunt assurance na paglaki ni Ethan, he can visit there naman if he likes and I'll not stop him. At least, kaya na nyang e protect ang self nya. And these words gave her joy.
In the end, they went home smiling and I even bid my farewell.
But there's a TWIST.
When they're gone, doon ko lang nalaman na pumunta pala ang papa ng anak ko at ang asawa nya.
They arrived pala mga 30 minutes later as I checked the CCTV and they parked sa kapitbahay na relative namin.
Kaya pala panay dala nila ng food doon.
Nalaman ko lang coz my son mentioned about it and nakita rin accidentally ng kapatid ko noong lumabas sya sa hardware ng ate ko.
So honestly, I'm really disappointed that I felt like they needed to lie na mga lola ang darating and na marami sila to cover him up.
And as pinag tagpi2x ko, kaya siguro ganun na lang kung mag attitude ang ate nya dahil pressured din sa kung ano ang maging reaction ko if malapit sila mag set up dahil may iba pa palang coming.
They could be avoiding any commotion as well and just purely missed our son.
But after careful thought, alam mo kung anong mas matimbang sa akin sis???
Yung tipong this time, at least di ko na need mag effort para lang makita ang anak ko like what I did the past years. 
Hindi na ako ang naghahabol at nagmamaka awa para lang makita ang anak namin.
Kasi nga sya ang nasusunod noon sa kung saan dapat ang anak namin coz looking back, he manipulated me through my love and understanding sa papa nyang under the saya nilang magkakapatid.
Yung lagi nyang sinasabi na di raw ako naawa sa lolo ng anak namin na nagpalaki sa bata. (Na concern ko rin at mentioned ko na sa kanya na nilalaro ang private part ng anak namin).
So as I look back, lahat ng mga sinabi nya noon sa convo namin na kaya nyang lusutan ang batas at sya ang masusunod sa bata didn't happen.
And even if kinukuha nya ang simpatya ng mga neigboring kamag anak namin and showing off his new elf and car...
...what's important is now, I don't need to show off anything to prove my worth as a mother na noon ay feeling ko inapak apakan. 
And the golden gift???
Naka tulog ako sa gabi ng may PEACE OF MIND dahil di ako nang away at masaya ang anak namin sa araw na yun.
What's the point of me sharing this a bit long story???
Simple.
Para sabihin sayo or e remind ka na BILOG ANG MUNDO.
And di sa lahat ng pagkakataon na yung feeling mo helpless ka ay dyan ka na talaga forever.
That if you humble yourself and do the right things, the Lord will cause people to help you and move you out of any situation you don't deserve.
And of course I know na I can't control my son forever.
Pag naging teen na sya, I can just cheer him more coz I know I'm confident pinapalaki ko sya without any hate sa papa nya and most importantly, na may FEAR OF THE LORD.
And kapag nagka family naman sya, I'm ready to counsel him, not control his family life kasi alam kong lahat ng naitanim ko sa kanyang aral ay maaalala nya growing up.
Kaya whatever problem you have right now...
Whatever challenges...
Lagi mong isipin ang brighter side and kung ano ba ang WINS mo.
Lagi mong pasalamatan si Lord sa lahat ng mga battles na nalampasan mo.
And sis...
Ang problem, it's never-ending.
In fact, need mo yan to keep growing.
Kasi you'll never win when there's no battle.
I hope @everyone found value in this post.
And as always, I'm just here cheering you on to your #HealingAfterCheating journey.
Now I'm curious sis.
As a Godly Builder, kung ikaw sa shoes ko,
ano kaya ang ginawa mo??? 
I'd love to hear from you.
Reply to this email and I'd love to read it.
Love,
Naysis FJ mo 
P.S. I'll be more active starting this month here in emails and in socials too.
So I hope you stay tuned and thank you for your support in our HAC Advocacy.
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