Good day,

Today, we shall consider another obstacle that could prevent you from reaching your goal. This obstacle must be dealt with so that you become the person with the right tools to achieve that goal that you have set for yourself.

Enjoy!

UNCERTAINTY ABOUT MY SKILLS

Are really committed to your goals? If not, your lack of commitment may weaken your confidence in your own skills and abilities. Sometimes you may think that you can do something but you are not really sure about how to deliver it. Remember that the manner in which you mentally talk to yourself impact your performance hence it is important to focus on your strengths. Identify your abilities in a positive way.

Focus on the things that you do well. Then decide which skills need work and identify strategies for improving on them. Taking positive specific action will help you develop confidence in your skills and abilities.

After I resigned my job, I decided to focus on developing and delivering training programmes to the public since I was already a trainer and facilitator for Nigeria Institute of Management (NIM) and a Certified Life Coach. At that point, the pandemic hit and there was a lock-down so my dreams were almost shattered since it was impossible to get participants in a room. Then I realized that for my goal to be reached, I needed to go online but lacked the skill to develop online course and what platform would deliver the best result. In order to solve the problem, I had to take an online course on How to Start Your Online Course by Emeka Nobis with a goal of making $1,000 in my first course series. After the training, I launched my first online course series and made $600 but I did not meet the goal of $1,000. Far from viewing my effort as a failure, I celebrated my commitment to learning a new skill and delivering quality online course, and am grateful for the feedback regarding the value I provide my students through my courses just like this one though this is free.

Here are a few questions that will help you further in dealing with uncertainty about your skills.

Do you lack confidence in your skills or abilities to reach a goal? If yes, why?

What will you do to increase your confidence?

How will you renew a commitment to your goal?

The following tips below will help you build confidence in your skills and improve them;

·        Think specifically and positively about your skills and abilities. Identify how they can contribute to each of your goals. Write these down.

·        Keeping your skills and abilities in mind, establish a realistic standard of achievement for your goal.

·        Establish a step-by-step plan for reaching your goal so that you can mark your progress.

·        When trying something new, think in terms of specific skills or behaviors that need changing. Avoid generalizations. Instead of “I’m terrible at running a meeting,” try “I need to develop and use an agenda.”

·        Avoid the exclusive use of others’ opinions when evaluating your skills.

·        Include your beliefs and your opinions as you make decisions about changes that need to be made.

·        For each criticism that you give yourself, also give yourself one or two specific compliments.

Kindly reach your friends and family to also benefit from this training by sending the link below to them and encourage them to sign up;

https://bit.ly/3jHBm4j

Ciao.

Emmanuel Dorgbaa

Your Coach