Dear Wonderful Woman,

I hope you've had a great weekend. If you're in London we're experiencing a bit of an Indian Summer, and some welcome warm weather before the cold of winter sets in.

September is flying by! I can't believe there are only 13 working days left. For me the anticipation is building for the launch of my paperback book. 🤩🤩 There is a possibility that I am not going to be able to launch my paperback book, this month as I have planned. However, I am not letting this worry me or make me feel bad. I've already written the book and if it takes a bit longer than planned, then I accept that. It not launching on the month that I planned does not diminish my achievement. Likewise you should apply that principle to yourself. If something takes longer than you thought, but you still achieve it, you need to give yourself the same credit as if it happened as you imagined that it would.

How are you doing with the goals you've got before the end of 2020?

I know it's really easy to want to write this year off as something of an oddity! I acknowledge that it has been. We all have to make our peace with it. Accept that there are just some things that are outside of our control. You know that there is going to be a BUT. There is something you can control and that is how you respond and what actions you take. I urge you to move towards a "growth mindset". Move towards accepting that in your mistakes or "failures" that these are but stepping stones to reaching your goal, dream or ambition. 

I wanted to share with you that shifting your mindset, takes time dedication and practice. I have personally moved from a "fixed mindset", one of wanting instant success and seeing my "failures" and nothing but as an embarrassment or deadweight! It did not happen over night and believe me there are still moments when I yearn for instant success! I am still learning to practice patience with myself. What I can say has been life changing in this respect, is how long I spend on feeling bad about my "failures". I feel sad about them, however I don't let them engulf me and nor do I spend days or weeks lamenting them. As I describe in my book there are moments when I fall off the wagon and spend a lot longer in the negative feelings zone than I would like.

I have learnt with practice to limit the time spent on my own "personal pity party!" It takes work, like I said! Why not try "time boxing" how long you "feel sorry for yourself"? Half a day, 1 day a couple of hours? See if you can get to place where you accept it didn't go well and move to place of actively seeking to learn from it. Rather then just lamenting it! It's learning to move between the negative feelings zone to the one of acceptance and learning that's really beneficial to you moving on and having ideas to do it differently.

On Monday, I'll be going live on LinkedIn, to share confidence tips and to test how well the platform works! I am continuing to help you build confidence with my lunch time series that gives you an actionable confidence tip in 30mins. I'll be speaking to Aude Mulard on 16th September at 1pm BST. Click here to signup! I'll also be sharing my authors story this week with my "Ask Me Anything" session on 17th September at 7pm BST. Click here to signup! Anyone that has or is undertaking caring responsibilities for a parent or relative, will not want to miss A shot of confidence with Lucinda Koza on 21st September. Click here to signup!

I hope you have a great week ahead.

To your success!

Warm Regards,

Ekua 💛