Hi ,

One thing I will always stand by is this: relationships matter. They shape you. They stretch you. They open doors for you. They teach you who you are and who you are not. So yes, I believe deeply in investing in people. Showing up for them. Being consistent. Being loyal. Being honest. Being present. Building memories. Fighting for healthy connection.

Relationships are one of the greatest currencies in life.

But here is the part we don’t talk about enough.

Not every relationship is meant to last forever. And that does not make it a failure.

There are seasons in life. In each season, certain people are assigned to walk with you. Some help you survive. Some help you grow. Some help you discover yourself. Some challenge you. Some comfort you. Some pray with you. Some build with you. Some just exist to make the journey lighter for a while.

Then the season ends.

No argument. No big betrayal. No loud breakup. Life simply shifts. Priorities change. Locations change. Mentalities change. Responsibilities increase. Paths diverge.

And suddenly, you find that the same conversations are not flowing like before. The same level of effort is no longer mutual. The same bond now feels heavy. Forced. Awkward. One-sided.

That does not automatically make anyone a bad person.

It just means the season has ended.

We need to stop romanticizing friendships and relationships to the point that we feel everything has to last forever. That is not how life works. Even the Bible speaks about time and seasons. There is time to plant, and time to uproot. Time to gather, and time to let go.

Trying to force a relationship that has naturally run its course is one of the most painful forms of self-betrayal. You begin to over-explain yourself. You start over-giving. You start over-apologizing. You start shrinking yourself just to maintain a connection that is already gone.

That is not loyalty. That is fear of change.

Investing in a relationship is healthy. Chasing a relationship is not.

You must learn the difference.

You can check on someone. Call them. Reach out. Try. Put in effort. That is good. But if you notice that you are the only one stretching, the only one initiating, the only one trying to keep the bond alive, then it is time for honesty with yourself.

And honesty is one of life’s greatest gifts.

There is a Yoruba proverb that says twenty friends cannot play together for twenty years. Some will stay. Some will evolve. Some will walk away. Some will remember you with love, even in distance. That is life.

The beauty of growth is that not everyone can go with you into the next version of yourself. And that is okay.

That does not erase the memories.

That does not cancel the love that was once there.

That does not make the season useless.

It just means the assignment is complete.

So here is the wisdom I want you to carry today.

Invest in people with your whole heart.

Be intentional.

Be kind.

Be loyal.

Be present.

But also know when to release.

Know when to stop forcing.

Know when to say, “This was good, and this is now over.”

Sometimes, letting go is not bitterness. It is maturity.

Sometimes, distance is not hate. It is growth.

Sometimes, silence is not war. It is acceptance.

And growth, real growth, requires acceptance.

If you are in a season where a relationship is slipping away, don’t panic. Don’t chase. Don’t beg. Don’t force. Sit with it. Observe it. Accept it.

New people will come.

New connections will form.

New chapters will open.

But only if you are brave enough to close the old ones in peace.

Your Fave,

Darasimi