Hey ,

Happy Sunday.

This Sunday, I want to talk about two things I strongly believe we are losing as a generation: honor and hospitality.

Most people think honor is only for those above them. Leaders. Pastors. Bosses. Elders. People with titles. But very few people think about honoring those on their level. Friends. Colleagues. Co-workers. And almost nobody thinks about honoring those they consider “below” them.

Yet honor was never meant to be selective.

Honor shows up in words.

Honor shows up in actions.

Honor shows up publicly and privately.

And if we are honest, familiarity has destroyed a lot of it.

We honor strangers better than we honor friends sometimes. We honor people we see once in a while better than people who show up consistently in our lives. Because we see them often, we reduce their value in our minds. We talk anyhow. We act anyhow. We assume they will always be there.

That is a mistake.

If someone has added value to your life, not because they are a leader, but because they are present, consistent, and supportive, they deserve honor. Not in theory. In practice.

The second thing is hospitality.

Somewhere along the line, we stopped caring about how we receive people and how we visit people. We only make effort when it feels “official.” When it is a pastor. When it is an elder. When it is someone we want to impress.

But when it is friends, siblings, loved ones, familiarity steps in. We go empty-handed. We receive people carelessly. We act like presence alone is enough.

Hospitality is not about how much you have. It is about intention.

If someone comes to visit you and you can offer water, offer it.

If you can cook, cook.

If you are visiting someone, try not to go empty-handed. Even if it is small.

It is not about the price. It is about the heart.

Personally, I do not like going to places empty-handed if it is planned. Even if it is something small, I try. And when people visit me, I make sure they eat, to the best of my ability, except they say no. Not because I am perfect, but because I believe it matters.

Honor and hospitality communicate value.

They say, “I see you.”

They say, “You matter.”

They say, “Your presence is not taken for granted.”

And this should not be reserved for leaders alone.

Honor your friends.

Honor your colleagues.

Honor your siblings.

Honor people who serve you.

Honor people you interact with daily.

Say thank you to the bike man.

Say thank you to the cashier.

Say thank you even when you feel you are the one doing the favor.

As this year winds down and we prepare for 2026, I really believe this is something we need to return to intentionally.

Be honorable.

Be hospitable.

Not in words alone, but in deeds.

Our generation needs it more than we realize.

Your Fave,

Darasimi