Hi ,

I’ve seen this phrase everywhere: “Grow at your own pace.” And yes, on the surface, it sounds kind and encouraging. But the more I think about it, the more I realise that it’s incomplete. In some cases, it can even be dangerous.

Don’t get me wrong, there is a season where growing at your own pace makes sense. When you’re just starting out, trying to find your balance, your rhythm, your confidence. When you’re still learning the basics, still figuring out what works and what doesn’t. In that stage, moving too fast can break you. So yes, at the beginning, your pace matters.

But there comes a point when “my pace” is no longer helpful. There comes a point where “my pace” is just another name for comfort, fear, uncertainty, or lack of discipline. And if we are being honest, many people hide behind their “pace” as an excuse for not doing the necessary work.

Growth does not respond to feelings. Life does not submit to emotions. Life submits to principles.

There is a system to growth. There is a method. There is a rhythm that works, and it has nothing to do with how you feel on a particular day. If what you are doing is driven only by how you feel, you will move in circles. Some days you’ll feel motivated. Other days you won’t. And in between, nothing really changes.

The truth is this: At some point, you have to stop asking, “What am I comfortable with?” and start asking, “What is required to move forward?”

Those two answers are usually very different.

Let me use a simple example. Imagine you want to grow on a platform as a content creator. You decide to post once a week because that feels manageable. That is your pace. But the platform itself, and the people who have succeeded on it, are telling you that consistency looks like once a day, or at least a few times a week. That is the right pace.

Now the question is: Will you adjust to the right pace, or will you stay loyal to your own pace just because it feels easier?

You can stay “consistent” for one year at the wrong pace and still see no real results. Not because you’re not trying, but because your effort is not in alignment with what is required.

And this thing is not just about social media. It is about life, your career, your finances, your spiritual growth, your relationships, your purpose. Every level comes with a level of effort attached to it. Every next step comes with a demand.

If your effort does not meet the demand of the season you are in, growth will not happen.

That’s why I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: growth and comfort are not related. They are not friends. They don’t live in the same house.

Every real step forward will stretch you. It will take more time, more energy, more discipline, more consistency, more focus than you are currently used to. There is no way around it.

Let me make this personal.

I started my newsletter a long time ago, but I was inconsistent. I would send it today, skip weeks, feel inspired again, send another one, disappear, come back. I didn’t see much change. It was still “my pace.” It was still based on how I felt.

Then I became consistent, started sending it twice a week. Then I started a 60-day challenge. That changed everything. It forced me out of comfort and into structure. It forced me to show up even when I didn’t feel like it. And the difference was clear. I started seeing actual growth. Real engagement. Real progress.

The only thing that changed was the pace.

It stopped being my pace and became the right pace for what I wanted to achieve.

So maybe today, you need to ask yourself a simple, honest question:  

Am I actually moving at the pace my future requires, or am I just moving at the pace that makes me feel safe?

Because safe does not always mean correct.

And sometimes, the most loving thing you can do for yourself is to outgrow your “own pace” and step into the pace that the next version of you requires.

Your Fave,

Darasimi.