Hey ,
Let me ask you a simple but important question:
Who is your litmus test?
This is a principle I’ve lived by for a long time.
I don’t make major decisions alone.
Not because I don’t have a mind of my own.
Not because I lack confidence.
But because there is safety in the multitude of counsel.
For me personally, I can count at least five people who serve as my litmus test.
They don’t decide for me.
They don’t force opinions on me.
They simply listen, respond, and share what they see.
And that alone has saved me more times than I can count.
Here’s what many people get wrong.
Seeking counsel is not weakness.
It is wisdom.
Deciding alone doesn’t make you strong.
It often just makes you blind to your blind spots.
You see life from one angle.
Others see it from different angles.
They might notice things you’re emotionally attached to.
They might question assumptions you’ve already accepted.
They might highlight risks you’re downplaying.
And sometimes, they confirm what you already feel but need courage to act on.
Your litmus test does not have to be only mentors.
They can be:
– Your friends
– Your spouse
– Your parents
– Your siblings
– Elders
– People who have gone ahead of you
What matters is not the title, but the wisdom, honesty, and goodwill they carry.
You need people who will tell you the truth, not just what you want to hear.
People who care about you enough to challenge you.
People who are not emotionally invested in your ego.
And let me be clear:
Not every decision needs a committee.
Not every choice needs outside input.
But major decisions should never be made in isolation.
Career moves.
Relocation.
Marriage.
Business partnerships.
Big financial decisions.
Life-altering commitments.
Those are too important to decide alone.
Yes, it is your life.
Yes, you will bear the consequences.
But that is exactly why you should invite perspective.
This year, I want to encourage you to stop isolating yourself in decision-making.
Build a circle.
Know who your counsel people are.
Know who you can call when things are unclear.
Ask questions.
Listen well.
Then decide wisely.
Because wisdom is not just about intelligence.
It’s about perspective.
And perspective multiplies when you don’t walk alone.
Your Fave,
Darasimi
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