Hey ,

So I want to take you back a few days.

Not to Monday. To the Saturday just before this Wednesday you’re reading this.

I had some people over at my place. Some of my mentees. Five of us in total. And it might not sound like a big deal at first glance, but for me, it was more than just a casual hangout. It had been a long time since all of us were in the same space at the same time. Life, schedules, responsibilities… you already know how it gets.

But that Saturday felt different.

We talked. We laughed. We shared. We reflected. We were just present.

And as simple as that sounds, the biggest lesson that stayed with me is this: you cannot do life alone.

At some point during our time together, I asked them a question. A very honest one.

“Who do you talk to? Who are you vulnerable with?”

And I wasn’t talking about God, even though that is vital. I wasn’t talking about a romantic partner either. I meant, who is that person you can sit with and say, “This is what I’m struggling with”? Not someone who must solve it. Not someone who must fix it. Just someone who will listen. Someone who is there.

Silence came before answers.

And it made me realise how many people are quietly carrying weight alone and calling it strength.

But isolation is not strength. Isolation is not maturity. Isolation is not a badge of honour.

There is nothing impressive about being unreachable, unapproachable, or emotionally disconnected.

The truth is, you were never designed to exist alone.

Scripture literally says it: it is not good for man to be alone. And that wasn’t just about marriage. It was about human connection. Community. Support. Presence.

Even science backs it up. I remember in secondary school, one of my teachers said something that stuck with me. He said if a human being is left alone on an island for a long time, surrounded only by animals, eventually the person starts to behave like them. That’s how much our environment and relationships shape us.

Human beings are mirrors. We reflect what we are surrounded by.

That’s why your circle matters. That’s why your community matters. That’s why you should never glorify isolation.

Now, I’m not saying you should have people in your space every day. I’m not saying you should be everywhere, attending every hangout, talking to everybody. No. Adulthood requires wisdom. Seasons change. Priorities shift.

But what I am saying is this: you should not build a life where you function as though you need nobody.

Even if it’s once in a month. Once in two months. Once in a while. There must be deliberate, intentional connection.

I have someone in my life who has made it her decision to visit me at least once every month. It is friendship subscription to me. And she has been consistent with it for over a year. No drama. No pressure. Just commitment to presence.

That kind of intentionality is powerful.

Because relationships don’t survive on vibes. They survive on investment.

And Saturday reminded me that sometimes, all you really need is to sit in the same room with people who understand you, who have watched your journey, who know your struggles, and still choose to be there.

It reminded me that healing is not always in loud miracles. Sometimes it is in quiet conversations. In shared food. In laughter over old stories. In honest reflections.

It reminded me that community is a gift.

So today, I want to leave you with a simple question, and I want you to answer it for yourself honestly:

Who are your people?

Not your followers. Not your acquaintances. Not the people who just know your name. I mean the people who know your heart. The people you could call on a random day and say, “I’m not okay today,” and they will listen.

If you can’t name at least one or two, that doesn’t make you weak. It just means you need to be more intentional.

Reach out. Reconnect. Check in. Build again. Invest again.

Because no matter how strong, ambitious, or independent you are…

You were never meant to do life alone.

Your Fave,

Darasimi