Excellence will not come from your unrealistic expectations

It will come from a relentless focus on the excellent ACTIONS you can take.

Today's message was inspired by the tweet below.

My response to this tweet was that "most people are "excellent" at placing unrealistic expectations on other people around them... except themselves."

I know I have done this ^^^ before, so I am sure you have as well.

Often times it's way easier to scoff and scold other people...

than it is to look in the mirror, poke at your own lackluster qualities, and then take the necessary ACTIONS towards self-progression.

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Reality is, that if you wish to attract excellent friends/family, business partners, and leaders, you must first be excellent yourself.

This doesn't mean that you need to be perfect, but it does mean that you need to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

Think about it for a moment. If you're constantly striving for excellence in your own life, you'll naturally attract others who are doing the same.

They'll be the ones who will support you, encourage you, and help you reach your goals.

On the other hand, if you're not striving for excellence, you'll attract people who are also not striving for excellence.

These people may be negative, unsupportive, and may even hold you back from achieving your goals.

So how can you start attracting excellence into your life?

Here are a few tips I put together to get you started:

Set high standards for yourself. If you want to attract excellent people, you need to be excellent yourself. This means setting high standards for yourself and constantly striving to meet them.

Surround yourself with positive role models EVERY SINGLE DAY. Spend time with people who inspire you and make you want to be a better person.

Be proactive in seeking out excellent people. Don't wait for them to come to you – go out and find them.

Take care of yourself. Excellence starts with taking care of yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

Be a good listener. When you're speaking with people, give them your full attention, and actively listen to what they have to say. This will show that you value their input and that you're open to learning from them.

Be open-minded and adaptable. Be willing to change and evolve as you learn and grow.

Be willing to help others. When you're willing to help others, you'll attract people who are also willing to help you.

Be consistent. Excellence is not something that you can achieve overnight. It takes time, effort, and consistency to become excellent.

Notice how everything I listed above is WITHIN YOUR CONTROL?

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In my early 20's I started to decide that I wanted to do a better job of striving for my own excellence.

I started controlling my controllables aka taking action on the list I provided you above.

What was the result of this? I re-connected with Erin, a dear friend of mine (now my wife) who was also on the pursuit of her own excellence.

And I sit here today, with the life we have built together, knowing that her and I will continue to strive for excellence TOGETHER for the rest of our lives.

It is something I wish more people were able to feel.

This feeling I get everyday being able to have a partner like her.

It all starts with turning your high expectations of others, onto yourself.

Start LIVING UP to your own potential and you will attract the life that you dream of!!!

#thriveon

CJ

p.s. today I am grateful for all the humans I am surrounded by who strive for excellence in their own lives, and encourage and inspire me to do the same.