Hard on purpose

Hi

Being hard on purpose doesn't mean being harsh.

It means engineering the right kinds of difficulty into your child's life before the world does it for them — on its terms, at its timing, with no safety net.

There are specific things I've come to believe belong in that category. Some of them are big. Some of them are surprisingly small. Some of them your family may already be doing without realizing why they work.

What they have in common is this: they put kids in situations where failure is possible, where other people don't automatically agree with them, and where the only way forward is through.

These aren't punishments. They're practice.

And kids who've had practice are the ones who hold up.

I'll be walking through the full framework — and the specific activities that build this — in a training I'm putting together. More on that soon.

Craig