Back then, I couldn't even talk to a girl to save my life

I was so shy... and so low in self-esteem…

I could never find the courage or drive to walk up to girls I really liked and kick-start a conversation.

Anytime I saw a girl I admire, my inner self would just start saying…

• What if she snobs you?

International disgrace:

You'll look like a big fool in public.

• The 'Do you have money" why bother

Can you pay her bills?

Do you even have a car?

You better respect yourself.

• See what you're even wearing...

And see what she's wearing..

See the kind of phone she's using,

This one is not in your league...

Just save yourself the embarrassment.

And while I was doing all that negative self-talk…

She'd get up and leave...

And I'll start cursing myself for missing that opportunity

Like... you see yourself?

Now you'll never see her again, you blew your shot.

Either that…

Or some random guy (with balls) would approach her, (Na this one dey pain pass)

Then they'd start talking and laughing and exchanging contacts…

And I'll want to die from envy…

What's even funny...? see them, laughing like big fools...

This continued throughout my secondary school.

Even throughout my university years.

It wasn't until my final year.

That I finally started "finding the courage" to talk to girls.

Here's a few ways I talked myself into trying:

• You're very cute and you have a charming smile, she'll probably like you upon first sight.

• You can hold interesting conversations with women.

• You have a weird sense of humor(you'll probably make her laugh and she just might like you even more for that)

• It's even possible she's seen you already(and maybe she's already hoping & praying you'll come talk to her)

• Forget about what you're wearing or how much you don't have... just focus... what will be will be

• What's the worst that could happen? At worst, she refuses to talk to you... you no kill person

A lot of women actually like it when you walk up to them

Sometimes, it worked,

Other times, It didn't.

But just talking myself into walking up to girls & saying hi.

Gave me a huge confidence boost

Not just to talk to girls more often, but also…

That I could do other things I felt I wasn't capable of doing…

And it helped in a lot of ways.

Especially when I sent that DM to one of mentor in 2020.

There were a lot of reasons to talk myself out of trying…

But I just told myself to try and leave the rest to fate.

And as it happened…

The guy replied me.

All of which brings me to the point of this email

Sometimes, it's easy to find reasons why something won't work...

That's very easy.

But the hard thing to do…

Is to focus on (or look for) reasons why it'll work…

Even if it's just one reason.

This applies from women to clients and so on.

And if you can't find any reason…

Well then, you can just turn to the oldest trick in the book.

Manufacture reasons in your head.

Reasons why it will work (if you give it your all)

And while I can't promise you heaven and earth.

What I can tell you for sure is…

If you can make a habit of doing this often…

You'll probably achieve more in the next 6-months.

Than you've achieved in the last 6-years.

It's all in your head.

PBUY

Benson

Have a great weekend.