My Life as a Stay-at-Home Dad
People often ask me what I've been busy with lately.
The truth is, life looks very different these days.
I have a 15-month-old daughter and a 3-month-old son.
My son's feeding schedule is every 4 hours:
12am, 4am, 8am, 12pm, 4pm, and 8pm.
Unlike most babies, he can only take breast milk. If he drinks formula, his eczema becomes extremely severe.
At the moment, life feels like a 24-hour shift.
The baby feeds continue through the night.
Sleep comes in small pockets.
Most days I'm barely awake and can hardly get any work done.
And here's the funny thing about having two young children...
When one child cries, somehow the other child immediately decides that crying is a great idea too.
My son starts crying because he's hungry.
My daughter hears him and starts crying because she's upset that he's crying.
Then my daughter cries louder.
Then my son cries even louder.
Then both children are crying at maximum volume while I'm trying to figure out which fire to put out first.
Sometimes I feel like I'm a crisis manager running a tiny organisation with two very emotional employees.
The challenge is that both children need attention at exactly the same time.
The moment you pick one up, the other one wants you.
The moment you settle one down, the other one decides it's their turn.
It's like a never-ending game of baby whack-a-mole.
Thankfully, I have one helper, and a second helper will be arriving on Saturday.
As an entrepreneur, my natural instinct is to systemise everything.
So I've been creating SOPs for baby care, housekeeping, feeding schedules, cleaning routines, and household operations.
My goal is simple:
Everything must be systemised like a business so that eventually it can run without me being involved in every little detail.
I'm also spending a lot of time planning schedules and responsibilities carefully so that:
• Nobody gets burned out
• Nobody feels overwhelmed
• There is a clear division of labour
• Expectations are clear
• Conflict is minimised
One quote that keeps coming to mind is:
"93% of problems are system problems, not people problems."
Most people blame individuals when things go wrong.
I'm learning that whether it's a company, a household, or raising children, many problems can be prevented by building better systems.
Right now, my life consists of feeding schedules, baby care SOPs, helper management, household operations, and trying to squeeze work into whatever hours remain.
It's exhausting.
But it's also one of the most meaningful seasons of my life.
Being a stay-at-home dad has taught me more about leadership, systems, delegation, patience, and responsibility than many business ventures ever did.
If anyone ever plans on becoming a parent one day, or if you're a parent right now, hopefully this SOP is useful for you too:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1seMyCvxDfhXt0mympSHPO5cJO-FibKhGR8cee2f6Pvc/edit
To all the parents out there running on very little sleep:
I see you.
And to the amazing mums who have helped provide breast milk for my son, thank you.
You may never fully know how much your kindness means to our family. ❤️
Btw for those of you who want to see my son, do come to his 100th day celebration! It's free, and dinner is my treat!
Event Details
Date: Monday, 15 June 2026
Time: 5:00 PM – 10:00 PM
Location: HomeTeamNS Bedok Reservoir
Room: East Villa Premium Reservoir 1
We’ve prepared a cozy 2.5-storey chalet venue for everyone, and food will be provided throughout the evening.
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