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Apr 13, 2021 1:02 pm

Consider a young lady, Susi who met Kara at an event in Ikoyi at a friend's wedding ceremony. Susi got so astonished by how nice and a cheerful fellow Kara was and reached out to her.

They exchanged contacts after some few chats. Susi got so excited she has added a new contact to her list and a possible close pal.

Susi got home that night and sent a well composed WhatsApp message to her new friend stating how nice and gorgeous she looked. She gave so much praise to Kara with some smiling emojis.

Only for Kara to respond with "Thanks".

What!

The thought that started running through the mind of Susi was "Seriously!".

"How can she just say thanks with all the hyping I have showered on her!"

This Kara girl must be a proud girl.

Calm down before you tell me what you feel about Susi or Kara.

Could this be you also judging someone who you had some high expectations from maybe because you did something for them, supported their course or keep giving them a call.

You have considered true friendship to mean the other party calling you at the same rate you call, responding instantly to your chats whenever you send a text to them and being there anytime you need them.

You are currently in a relationship and have an expectation of how the other party should voluntarily give to you irrespective of their capacity. Well, not bad but how far.

You work so tirelessly with an organisation and expect to have been promoted by now or your salary grossly increased but you don't even get a "thank you".

Here are three things to always do with expectation: define your expectations clearly, moderate your expectations and don't let your expectations control you.

Instead of feeling disappointed when your expectations are not met, find a self fulfilling reason to do that thing without placing a dependence on what the other party does or does not do.

If eventually, they meet your expectation, it simply becomes an addition not a compulsion.

Who knows what Kara may be facing?

Who know how much she has to deal with?

Who knows how busy she is?

Who knows if all you see is little compared to the real thing?

Never judge people by your expectations.

Become a third party and see beyond.

We will be wise!

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