Hey Guys,

late na pero it's been an exciting day.

had a DC (discovery call) with a prospect, and it went great. Thanks Hazel sa referral!

Mag test project kami for 1500$ over 4 edited videos for their YT channel. Wala muna yung ibang repurposing stuff as he mentioned sa unang message nya:

Super satisfied with how the call went, prospect also treated it as a consultation, and didn't talk to me na parang he's filtering people to hire sa interview.

Sayang lang link nya yung active, I would have recorded it sana kung alam ko pano.

Would it be useful kaya if I recorded and shared my discovery calls? Will people actually watch them? I tried sharing links sa DC calls over zoom ko dati, wala naman nanonood halos, so we'll see.

Let me know sa reply (also use my Gmail just to be sure).

That being said, does anyone know how to record calls sa Google Meet? (it's not G-Suite, and I tried using a screen recorder like OBS but nagfreeze yung video ko)

Anyway, what I wanted to share today was really the feeling I had while being on the call. May nerves lang sa simula but once it started and natapos small talk, maganda na yung naging exchange.

And I think I owe it to the mindset that I bring when it comes to being on discovery calls.

I mentioned the test project na muna and yun gusto din nila. Just need to email them with the details, and potentially mag start na sa Sept.

It's hard to explain, pero it's a feeling of calm and a sense of not making it a goal to close the deal.

In fact, twice ko ni-reject yung close even if nagtanong na sya ng price several times.

I would describe it as coming into the call with your sense of self intact and your perception of worth equal to your conversation partner.

Kasi most freelancers I see come into calls with a sense of feeling less than their counterpart, which is often sensed and gets taken advantage of. It basically allows them to have an unspoken upper hand in the conversation.

That's why for chuday's email I wanted to share this graphic.

It's from my mindset mentor's teachings, which shares a paradigm matrix of what we look like as humans in different stages of our life, as we aspire to be functional adults.

So we're going to un-earth some feelings.

Yup.

Feelings.

Kasi yung nga tayo as kids we weren't allowed to fully feel our feelings as they happened. a lot of times na suppress lang tayo into the roles that society put us on. Ex. boys aren't allowed to cry. (they actually should. all people should be able to experience ALL the emotions sana habang bata pa para they know how it's like to feel them, but our society doesn't allow this)

So yun, we end up being incomplete adults kasi we were walled off from our full experience sana as humans.

Conversely, we dump our incomplete selves on the people around us. kaya maraming doubt, fear, miscomm, misunderstandings, and so many issues dahil hindi natin na fully experience yung emotions natin growing up, and we don't know how to handle them.

What does this have to do with being a freelancer and having discovery calls with our prospects?

Napapansin ko kasi lumalabas talaga sa language, speech patterns, and even tone of voice natin yung pagka-needy or anxious natin when talking to people. Palpable sya sa mga recordings when you're coming from a place of need. (kahit hindi naman cash yung need mo, and you're wondering why di mo pa din makausap ng maayos prospect mo.)

This paradigm states na something happened nung childhood natin that causes us to be either act out as a child or a teen, when we should be functional adults na sana.

And the method prescribed to help heal yourself is through corrective journaling... or simply corrections.

If you feel na you have all the skills naman na to succeed in freelancing, matalino ka naman, and yet you sometimes just flake out before becoming successful.. it could be some of those emotions blocking your breakthrough.

If bigla ka na lang na-buburnout tapos hindi naman objectively nakakapagod yung ginagawa mo, but mentally you feel like the whole world is on your shoulders.. baka it's trauma from your past you haven't worked through yet, and di mo pa na-express fully yung emotions to move on.

If sometimes napapa-isip ka na that shet baka something might be wrong with you kasi sobrang dami mo nang courses na ni-take, you haven't completed or followed through and taken action on any one course (puro bili ka lang).. maybe something else is in need of fixing pala.

I don't know, hehe. Wala din ako alam how it might benefit your life reading this, but for me, nakatulong sya sa procrastination ko and sa pagiging anxious with talking to strangers.

It also gave me a bigger awareness of myself and my limitations and being able to accept that and start creating healthy boundaries na.

It's by no means perfect, and it won't make me superman pero I can say nag-improve din relationships ko as a result.

Kaya even if a lot of this feels like baloney right now, if nothing ever worked for you before.. who's to say studying this won't work for you as well?

Be it sa calls mo, sa strategy docs, and actions mo with clients.. it bleeds into every day.

So as a start consider mo lang to feel the whole gamut of your emotions through.

That's all I have for today. Cheers.

Counterintuitively yours, 

Shoden "wow third email in a row" San