I got a little sick coming back from Europe.
But in the words of the great philosopher Juvenile, this one is all about the bounce back.
⏳ Resilience is about duration
Resilience is simply the ability to bounce back after a setback.
Notice what is missing from that. Nothing about avoiding the setback, and nothing about feeling good while in it.
Neuroscientist Richard Davidson measures it the same way (literally in the brain):
One of the keys to resilience, if not the most important key, is the rapidity with which we recover from adversity. So we’re particularly interested in ways of measuring that ability to recover in the brain, by looking at specific neurocircuits.
— Richard J. Davidson, Resilience and the Brain
So the goal stops being to feel good all the time.
The goal is a shorter bounce back period.
🎯 80% Rule
I interviewed my friend Erin on my podcast about her new book Do The Thing.
She's spent 18 years coaching founders and high performers to, well, do the thing.
I loved her framing on the 80% rule to combat perfectionism. (think she was talking to me)
Rather than shooting for 100% for any habit or behavior it’s better to aim for 80% of the time.
Aka, build in 20% space for the bounce back!
Check out the pod on YouTube or Spotify
🕺Gritty or Griddy?
What shortens a bounce back is having a REASON to bounce back.
This is the misunderstood part of grit.
It’s hard to compete with someone who loves what they’re doing or has an unstoppable why.
Compare that to being “half in” on a bunch of projects.
Lesson I learned the hard way… half doing something is an expensive way of not doing it.
Which argues for fewer things, not more. Fewer things you care about, done well. Grit becomes easy from there.
Resilience is shortening the duration
Grit is applying intensity
Wisdom is knowing which one the moment needs.
(And the difference between gritty and griddy is mostly in the hips.)
Todo bien,
Mitchell
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